“Do I really need to ask my partner before I do this?” It’s a question that comes up often in relationships, whether it’s making plans with friends, spending money, going out of town, accepting a new job opportunity, or simply deciding how to spend a Saturday...
For many couples, conversations about body changes are some of the hardest conversations to have — not because couples are superficial or unloving, but because these topics touch deeply vulnerable places in all of us. You may be thinking to yourself: “I don’t even...
Dinner is over, dishes are still on the table. Natalie is talking about her day — something stressful, something that mattered. Jack nods, eyes fixed on his phone, thumb scrolling. “Are you listening?” Natalie asks. “Yeah,” Jack replies, not looking up. She goes...
‘Tis the season for generosity, love, and connection—and, let’s be honest, pressure. Between rising prices and economic uncertainty, it’s no surprise that many couples and families are feeling stretched thin. For many, what used to feel joyful now feels more like...
Dear Therapist, My partner keeps telling me I’m defensive. I don’t see it that way. I feel like I’m just explaining myself. I don’t want to come across as difficult, but I also don’t think it’s fair to always take the blame. How do I know if I’m actually being...
Dear Therapist, I’ve been reading about the Four Horsemen from The Gottman Method, and I really want to improve how I show up in my relationship. But honestly, it’s hard to catch myself in the moment. Sometimes it feels like I only realize I was critical or defensive...
Let’s face it—stress is a universal experience that can infiltrate every aspect of our lives, including our relationships. Whether it’s work, parenting differences, or health concerns, stress is often an unavoidable part of daily life. But what exactly is stress, and...
“Conflict is connection. It’s how we figure out who we are, what we want, who our partners are and who they are becoming, and what they want. It’s how we bridge our differences and find our similarities, our points of connection. The problem is, we haven’t been taught...