Relationship Tips
ADHD Couples: How to Take Your Fights From Fierce to Friendly
Do you remember the last time you had an argument with your partner? Did you feel lit up, frustrated, or even out of control? When we experience anger during a conflict with our partner, it's important to recognize that anger is often a secondary emotion, meaning that...
How to Not Be Passive-Aggressive in Your Relationship
We’ve all heard about passive-aggressive behavior. You may have even seen the latest passive-aggressive memes or email sign-offs like: "As per my last email.” Insert eye-roll. And while these memes and posts certainly bring a laugh, when your partner acts passively...
6 Resources to Help You Identify and Heal Anxious Attachment
Do you ever wonder why your relationship with your partner doesn't feel deeply fulfilling? Your way of attaching to others, your attachment style, is a blueprint for how you connect in close relationships. Your attachment style is shaped by your early experiences with...
How Do You Respond to Your Partner’s Bid for Connection?
When you are in a relationship, every interaction holds the potential to deepen connection or create distance. This is true for even the most seemingly ordinary moments with your partner—whether you ask them to go for a walk, listen to a new song, or reach out to hold...
Emotionally Flooded? Cognitive Restructuring Can Help.
Suzanne and Rick were having their third fight of the week over in-laws and vacations. Would the conflict ever end? Each time Suzanne tried to share her perspective with Rick, he would lose it and leave the room. How would they ever get through this argument to the...
Navigating Neurodivergence Tests: A Practical Guide for Adults and Couples
It's not always easy for neurodiverse couples, where one partner is neurodivergent, while the other is neurotypical, to find common ground. Thankfully, neurodivergent assessments and therapy can help neurodiverse couples better understand each other’s unique strengths...
Ask a Therapist: Does Premarital Counseling Mean My Marriage Is Doomed From the Start?
Dear Therapist, My fiancé and I are getting married this fall, and I suggested we do premarital counseling to strengthen our relationship. One of my married friends told me that they did premarital counseling and found it to be very helpful because they talked...
Ask a Therapist: How Can I Get My Partner to Read the Therapy Content I Share With Them?
Dear Therapist, I'm currently in couples therapy with my partner—let's call him Frank. Recently, I found an article that I thought could really help us manage our shared responsibilities at home. The mental load is taking a toll on me, and the issue has become a real...
REACH Forgiveness: How to Heal After Betrayal
Betrayal in a marriage is one of the most challenging experiences a couple can face. It can shatter trust, leave emotional scars, and make it difficult to move forward. Although infidelity is one of the most common types of betrayal, there are many other ways that...
Date Night Rut? Take This Quiz for Your Ideal Date Night
"Just go on a date," they say. Date nights are frequently touted as the key to strengthening romantic relationships. And it is true— research shows that married couples who go on regular date nights "enjoy better communication, sex, and commitment." While date nights...