Relationship Tips

How Does Shame Affect a Relationship?

How Does Shame Affect a Relationship?

“Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” – Brené Brown I sit in my chair facing Marcy and Lou*, the couple I’ve been seeing for a few months. They came for counseling after Lou...

6 Resources for Your Sex Life

6 Resources for Your Sex Life

Welcome to the second post in our series, Therapist Resource Roundup. Each quarter, we share a list of resources focused on a different theme our therapists often work through with clients. Every roundup will feature books, articles, videos, and podcasts that our...

Betrayal Trauma? Try the 4 Circle Plan

Betrayal Trauma? Try the 4 Circle Plan

"The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies, it comes from those you trust the most." - Author unknown There's no doubt that the ones we love can hurt us the most. And when a betrayal is disclosed or unveiled, the impacted partner can...

4 Steps to Get Your Love Language Heard

4 Steps to Get Your Love Language Heard

Couples often enter the therapy room saying, "we just aren't speaking the same language!" Couples who say this phrase often feel their relationship needs are not being met. Or perhaps one doesn't don't feel cared for or understood by their partner. One common reason...

Grief 101: 3 Common Types and 5 Stages of Grief

Grief 101: 3 Common Types and 5 Stages of Grief

You take the time and plan for a myriad of life events. Perhaps you've outlined contingency plans. You may have considered a variety of outcomes. And yet even with this planning, we do not plan for loss itself. All sorts of loss can bring up grief. You could grieve...

10 Questions to Deepen Your Connection with Your Partner

10 Questions to Deepen Your Connection with Your Partner

Is your relationship a little stuck in the day-to-day to-dos? Do you find your conversations with your partner only focus on the to-do list? Did you pay the water bill? Can you take the dog to the groomer tomorrow? Does the car need an oil change? Connecting with your...