"You complete me." "Love means never having to say you're sorry." "I'm just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her." While these rom-com quotes are iconic in film, their messages and subsequent toxic themes often deprioritize individuality,...
Ali Flowers
The Timeout: The Best Tool to Resolve a Fight With Your Partner
In the heat of a fight or an argument, emotions can flare up, making it challenging to maintain a constructive dialogue. As a therapist, we often see how conflicts escalate when people become overwhelmed by their emotions. Even though every couple argues, a fight can...
My Love Language Is Gifts. Does That Make Me Materialistic?
In the world of love languages, gifts often get a bad rap. People often misunderstand and stigmatize the gifts love language, believing it to be materialistic, greedy, or shallow. Yet there is beauty and significance in the love language of gifts. Whether you identify...
Do You Need Discernment Counseling or Couples Counseling?
How do you know when a relationship is over or if you should keep trying? Couples counseling and discernment counseling are two therapeutic approaches designed to address relationship issues, but they serve different purposes and cater to distinct needs. We're...
Build a Strong Marriage With These 2 Premarital Questionnaires
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! You and your fiance are undoubtedly experiencing an exciting time filled with anticipation and dreams for married life. You're not alone if your engagement includes wedding-related stress and distractions that hinder focused...
Why Small Gestures Make a Big Difference in Your Marriage
Do you make it a habit to show your partner love and appreciation each day? Small gestures of love can make a powerful impact on relationships. Dr. John Gottman discusses in his book “The Seven Principles in Making Marriage Work” that couples who regularly engage in...
Your Quick-Start Guide to Apology Languages
Why is it so hard to apologize? Saying "I'm sorry" seems like a simple anecdote to a problem, so why can it sometimes be the hardest thing to do? Apologizing is the repair needed to build a bridge back to others. Understanding how to apologize within a relationship...