Compromise in a relationship can feel like an uphill battle. If you give in and give up, you feel defeated. If you dig your heels in and refuse to waver, you feel guilty. Yet, Dr. John Gottman, co-founder of Gottman Method Couples Therapy, emphasizes that compromising...
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ADHD Couples: How to Take Your Fights From Fierce to Friendly
Do you remember the last time you had an argument with your partner? Did you feel lit up, frustrated, or even out of control? When we experience anger during a conflict with our partner, it's important to recognize that anger is often a secondary emotion, meaning that...
How Do You Respond to Your Partner’s Bid for Connection?
When you are in a relationship, every interaction holds the potential to deepen connection or create distance. This is true for even the most seemingly ordinary moments with your partner—whether you ask them to go for a walk, listen to a new song, or reach out to hold...
Why Small Gestures Make a Big Difference in Your Marriage
Do you make it a habit to show your partner love and appreciation each day? Small gestures of love can make a powerful impact on relationships. Dr. John Gottman discusses in his book “The Seven Principles in Making Marriage Work” that couples who regularly engage in...
What is the Gottman Method?
Seeking out couples therapy can be overwhelming. You’re likely sifting through a matrix of options, therapy types, and practice locations. Whether you’re looking to reconnect, improve communication, or rebuild trust, it’s important to seek therapy that is grounded in...
The Couple’s Gratitude Guide: Fondness and Admiration
"Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts." - John Gottman The holidays are nearing, which often means many of us will spend more time with family and friends. For some, it's an exciting season and a time to...
Emotionally Flooded? 5 Ways to Care for Yourself In Conflict With Your Partner
When you hear the phrase “fight, flight or freeze,” which images come to mind? Many of us probably picture a crisis or emergency situation like a fireman rushing toward a burning building. Imagine this – fireman John just received a call about a building that went up...
2 Therapist-Approved Tips to Handle the Holidays with Your Partner
It’s here! The holiday season is upon us, and if you happen to find yourself in a relationship this holiday season then this blog is for you! For most of us, the hope for the holidays is to enjoy plenty of festivities, feasting, and quality time with our loved ones,...