The words we choose to express how we feel can undeniably impact how we relate to one another. In the words of the esteemed poet Rumi, “Raise your words, not your voice. It is the rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” As a marriage and family therapist, I see this...
When was the last time you looked at your wedding day photos? It's truly a trip down memory lane and an opportunity to transport yourself back into the moment. These beautiful images make two things very clear to me: We look like babies. Oh wow, we look so young. We...
We have all been hurt in our closest relationships, whether intentionally or unintentionally. It is a simple fact of life. Many of these injuries are shallow, and heal without much effort, like paper cuts. Sometimes, though, the injury is more serious, because it...
Have you ever suspected that someone you know may be having suicidal thoughts? Perhaps you've noticed your partner become uncharacteristically withdrawn, giving away prized possessions out-of-the-blue, or "getting affairs in order." Or maybe a friend or family member...
Now that COVID-19 vaccines are more widely available for adults, updated CDC guidelines, and mask mandates lifting, I’m beginning to see signs of distress and increased anxiety in couples regarding how to maintain closeness while reintegrating into their community....
If you've been hurt by your partner's infidelity, lying, or other type of relationship distress, forgiveness may feel like an insurmountable mountain. While Alexander Pope said, "To err is human; to forgive, divine," it's important to note that forgiveness is a...
Do you know that it’s Stress Awareness Month? Right, as if we need a reminder about how stressed out we are! I can attest that 2020 and, even 2021, have done a more than adequate job reminding me of this already. With the mounting stress that has accumulated over this...
Forgiveness is a weighty concept that can carry so many different connotations. If we were scientists in a lab trying to define this complex and nebulous idea, we would never truly reach the end of our study. That vagueness is why it can be so tough to consider the...