Let’s put on our science hats for a moment to understand attachment theory. John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth pioneered this concept in their work with mothers and children in the 1900s. Dr. Sue Johnson, Mario Mikulincer, and Philip Shaver, among many others, have...
I’m sure you have heard about the 5 Love Languages. If not, it’s a book that breaks down the ways we feel the most loved. Usually all of them feel pretty nice, but there’s usually one powerhouse that helps us feel truly loved. When you get the full experience of...
I was listening to an interview with a nutritionist the other day, and I was struck by something she said. She said that when people come to her trying to get healthier and lose weight, she doesn’t focus on what to cut out, she focuses on what to add in. Eating more...
Most people are good at apologizing, depending on the context. If you bump into someone in the office break room, "Sorry!" If you accidentally spill something at the grocery store, "I'm so sorry!" In close relationships, though, apologizing can be one of the hardest...
It’s amazing how fast we react internally to people’s mood and tone. Someone can get an edge to their voice, have a frown on their face, or be extra quiet, and our brain signal us, “Alert! Something’s wrong!” In many ways, this is a good thing. We are sensitive to the...
We have experienced the deep fulfillment and inevitable disappointments in our own marriage and know the importance of having a clear map to navigate the complex and challenging territory of committed relationships. We use two primary models of treatment which are...
Remaining in a committed relationship can be incredibly fulfilling and incredibly difficult, even for the healthiest couples. Our definitions of "love" and what it means to be in a satisfying relationship also weighs heavily on our ability to weather the difficult and...
You have a neutral person to help you self-reflect. The people in your life, such as family and friends, are there to love you through it all and support you no matter the cost. A therapist is neutral person who can provide support, while at the same time, ask you...