Detecting, Defining, and Healing Trauma in Relationships. Trauma can be like a third person in a relationship, a complex personality who governs expression and proximity.
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The 4 Different Types of Quarantine Couples
Being locked down with your partner for months can be a blessing or a curse, or both. We’ve found 4 different types of quarantine couples during this pandemic.
Election Day Anxiety: Here’s how to connect with your partner
With Election Day being tomorrow you and/or your partner might be feeling anxious. Some notable tell-tale signs are: feeling on edge, being more quiet, isolating in another room, staying glued to media outlets, not eating or eating more, or not sleeping well. These feelings are normal and we have strategies to help you and your partner work through this time.
Are You a Pursuer, Withdrawer, or a Bit of Both?
Let’s put on our science hats for a moment to understand attachment theory. John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth pioneered this concept in their work with mothers and children in the 1900s. Dr. Sue Johnson, Mario Mikulincer, and Philip Shaver, among many others, have...
Love Languages
I’m sure you have heard about the 5 Love Languages. If not, it’s a book that breaks down the ways we feel the most loved. Usually all of them feel pretty nice, but there’s usually one powerhouse that helps us feel truly loved. When you get the full experience of...
Instead of What to Cut, What Can We Add In?
I was listening to an interview with a nutritionist the other day, and I was struck by something she said. She said that when people come to her trying to get healthier and lose weight, she doesn’t focus on what to cut out, she focuses on what to add in. Eating more...
3 Reactions That Can Get in the Way of a Sincere Apology
Most people are good at apologizing, depending on the context. If you bump into someone in the office break room, "Sorry!" If you accidentally spill something at the grocery store, "I'm so sorry!" In close relationships, though, apologizing can be one of the hardest...
Safety Signals
It’s amazing how fast we react internally to people’s mood and tone. Someone can get an edge to their voice, have a frown on their face, or be extra quiet, and our brain signal us, “Alert! Something’s wrong!” In many ways, this is a good thing. We are sensitive to the...