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Repair In The Real World: It’s The Little Things
“ We must not, in trying to think about how we can make a big difference, ignore the small daily difference we can make, which over time, often add up to big differences we often cannot foresee.” - Marian Wright Edelman It would be accurate and certainly...
Your Best Vacation Ever Includes Therapy
We’re all coming out of the covid fog – we’re no longer in survival-only mode and many are easing back into planning vacations and planning for the future. Summers have often been the perfect time of year to get away from the everyday to refresh, recharge, and reset...
Separating Gracefully: How Couples Counseling Can Help
Sitting in the afternoon light of my therapy office, I observe the faces of the couple across the coffee table. They are restricted, tense, and in pain. Hans* explains in a small voice that they have decided to end the relationship. His wife, Mary*, cries quietly...
Use Your Words: Why Emotion Words Matter
The words we choose to express how we feel can undeniably impact how we relate to one another. In the words of the esteemed poet Rumi, “Raise your words, not your voice. It is the rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” As a marriage and family therapist, I see this...
6 Questions You Should Ask Each Other On Your Anniversary
When was the last time you looked at your wedding day photos? It’s truly a trip down memory lane and an opportunity to transport yourself back into the moment. These beautiful images make two things very clear to me: We look like babies. Oh wow we look so young. We...
Have You Caused an Attachment Injury? Here’s How to Work Through It
We have all been hurt in our closest relationships, whether intentionally or unintentionally. It is a simple fact of life. Many of these injuries are shallow, and heal without much effort, like paper cuts. Sometimes, though, the injury is more serious, because it...
Support For Those With Suicidal Thoughts
Have you ever suspected that someone you know may be having suicidal thoughts? Perhaps you've noticed your partner become uncharacteristically withdrawn, giving away prized possessions out-of-the-blue, or "getting affairs in order." Or maybe a friend or family member...
Anxious, Excited, or Both? Your Relationship Post Lockdown
Now that COVID-19 vaccines are more widely available for adults, updated CDC guidelines, and mask mandates lifting, I’m beginning to see signs of distress and increased anxiety in couples regarding how to maintain closeness while reintegrating into their community....
Why You’re (Probably) Not Codependent
Codependency as common vernacular I first heard the term “codependent” as a counseling student in graduate school. I remember working with one of my first clients, who was going through a painful breakup at the time. I can still see her sitting across from me in that...
How Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) Can Help Couples
Let’s face it, trying to maintain a healthy work-life balance can be quite the challenge, especially given the demands of today’s fast-paced work environments and busier-than-ever family schedules. Not to mention, a raging pandemic that has forced many families to...