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Couples Intensive
Is a Couples Intensive Right for You? If your friends ask, you say, “Everything is great...really...it’s good.” However, you know that isn’t entirely true, your relationship is “fine.” It’s not great and it’s definitely not how you’d like it to be, but it’s not...
Couples Facing Cancer
Cancer places tremendous burden on relationships Your partner describes feeling “off” - he/she goes for a routine check-up and you both think nothing of it. However, the dreaded moment comes when the doctor shares concerns, recommends additional testing, and you both...
Trauma in Relationships
Detecting, Defining, and Healing Trauma in Relationships. Trauma can be like a third person in a relationship, a complex personality who governs expression and proximity.
The 4 Different Types of Quarantine Couples
Being locked down with your partner for months can be a blessing or a curse, or both. We’ve found 4 different types of quarantine couples during this pandemic.
Election Day Anxiety: Here’s how to connect with your partner
With Election Day being tomorrow you and/or your partner might be feeling anxious. Some notable tell-tale signs are: feeling on edge, being more quiet, isolating in another room, staying glued to media outlets, not eating or eating more, or not sleeping well. These feelings are normal and we have strategies to help you and your partner work through this time.
Are you a Pursuer, Withdrawer, or a bit of both?
Ok, let’s put our science hat on for just a minute and understand something called Attachment Theory. John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth pioneered this concept in their work with mothers and children in the 1900s. Dr. Sue Johnson, Mario Mikulincer, and Philip Shaver,...
Love Languages
I’m sure you have heard about the 5 Love Languages. If not, it’s a book that breaks down the ways we feel the most loved. Usually all of them feel pretty nice, but there’s usually one powerhouse that helps us feel truly loved. When you get the full experience of...
Instead of What to Cut, What Can We Add In?
I was listening to an interview with a nutritionist the other day, and I was struck by something she said. She said that when people come to her trying to get healthier and lose weight, she doesn’t focus on what to cut out, she focuses on what to add in. Eating more...
Why is apologizing so hard?
Most people are pretty good at apologizing, depending on the context. If you bump into someone in the office break room – sorry! If you accidentally spill something in a grocery store – I’m so sorry! In your close relationships, though, apologizing can be one of the...
Safety Signals
It’s amazing how fast we react internally to people’s mood and tone. Someone can get an edge to their voice, have a frown on their face, or be extra quiet, and our brain signal us, “Alert! Something’s wrong!” In many ways, this is a good thing. We are sensitive to the...