Remaining in a committed relationship can be incredibly fulfilling and incredibly difficult, even for the healthiest couples. Our definitions of "love" and what it means to be in a satisfying relationship also weighs heavily on our ability to weather the difficult and...
You have a neutral person to help you self-reflect. The people in your life, such as family and friends, are there to love you through it all and support you no matter the cost. A therapist is neutral person who can provide support, while at the same time, ask you...
Positive and negative interactions in a relationship don't have equal impact. It takes at least 20 positive interactions (e.g., saying "I love you," holding hands, asking about the day, etc.) to counteract 1 negative interaction (e.g., a critical statement). Positive...
[The following post describes the first three levels of the Sound Relationship House: 1) building love maps, 2) sharing fondness and admiration, and 3) turning toward, which are all about nurturing friendship in a relationship.] A common myth is that if I'm married to...
I've been working with clients for over 10 years now; the majority of my work is with couples. If I were to list common themes brought to the therapy room, one would be the evolution of a relationship.One cannot not change. (I realize I used a double negative; I meant...
Lemon Cheesecake with Raspberries Recently I stumbled upon an article in the New York Times on the idea that culturally we're disengaged from being in the moment. I originally thought it was going to be an article on how cool it is to document your life. Although it...
You did it. You scheduled your first couples therapy appointment. Now what? For many new clients, therapy may be daunting because it is an entirely new experience. Perhaps the only exposure you've had with therapy is from a TV show or heard a friend talking about...
Do you have what it takes to be a good listener? It isn't as easy as you think and it doesn't always come naturally. However, with a little concentration and intention, you can improve your listening skills in just five steps. Step 1: Maintain eye contact. Maintaining...