Relationship Tips
I love you, but I’m not IN love with you.
I've been working with clients for over 10 years now; the majority of my work is with couples. If I were to list common themes brought to the therapy room, one would be the evolution of a relationship.One cannot not change. (I realize I used a double negative; I meant...
Take the Unplugged Challenge
Lemon Cheesecake with Raspberries Recently I stumbled upon an article in the New York Times on the idea that culturally we're disengaged from being in the moment. I originally thought it was going to be an article on how cool it is to document your life. Although it...
What to Expect During Your First Couples Therapy Session
You did it. You scheduled your first couples therapy appointment. Now what? For many new clients, therapy may be daunting because it is an entirely new experience. Perhaps the only exposure you've had with therapy is from a TV show or heard a friend talking about...
Develop good listening skills
Do you have what it takes to be a good listener? It isn't as easy as you think and it doesn't always come naturally. However, with a little concentration and intention, you can improve your listening skills in as little as five steps. 5 Tips to good listening skills...
Cultivating Gratitude: Take the 1 month challenge
It's not uncommon to list the things you are grateful for around Thanksgiving time...but that's still a few months away. Why wait until then? Recently we've been thinking about adding on to our home. We went so far as to hire an architect, a structural engineer, and...
The kids are gone, now what?
In the last post, I wrote about the transition of sending your children away to college. Today's post is a follow up with a focus on the parents who are left behind. Many people joke about the relief of having the house all to themselves once children are gone and...
Sending kids away to college
Growing up my mom would always celebrate this time of year. There was a Staples back-to-school commercial that would show a dad gliding on a shopping cart through the aisles with his head flung back and a wide grin on his face while his children begrudgingly walked...
The 4 Steps of a Sincere Apology
Do you know how to repair your relationship through a sincere apology? What even constitutes a “sincere apology?” Which wrongs require a heartfelt apology? Mistakes are inevitable in every relationship. And how you repair those mistakes is essential to a healthy,...
Bullying and Protecting your Kids
"Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me," was a clever saying I learned growing up. Truth is words do hurt; words deeply penetrate our vulnerable selves. To help protect others from the hurt and loss bullying causes, the White House...
Spring cleaning. Clear the way for good things.
Growing up in Arizona for most of my life, the weather stayed sunny and warm, if not hot, most of the year. Experiencing 4 months of bone-chilling cold, gray skies, and occasional snow days has got me fantasizing about becoming a "snow bird." Needless to say, I'm...