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How to Break Up With Your Therapist (Without Guilt or Awkwardness)
Breakups are never easy — and ending therapy is no exception. Even though it’s a professional relationship, it often feels deeply personal. When you first consider ending therapy, a lot of questions can bubble to the surface: What if I hurt their feelings? How do I bring this up? Will... Read more
Communication skillsCouples therapy workshopsEmotionally Focused Couples TherapyPersonal growthReconnection
Couples Book Clubs Are the New Date Night — Here’s Why They Work
As fall rolls around and life fills up with work, school, and holiday prep, it might feel like finding quality time with your partner is harder than ever. And even when you do carve out time together, the conversation can slip into logistics—what needs to get done, who’s handling what—rather... Read more
Communication skillsEmotionally Focused Couples TherapyPersonal growthResource round upTrauma and healing
Books for Healing: 4 Therapist-Recommended Reads to Strengthen Yourself and Your Relationship
Many of the clients I work with carry emotional burdens that didn’t start in their current relationship. They often feel like the “responsible one,” the emotional caretaker, or the one who keeps the peace. Over time, that responsibility becomes heavy, leading to resentment, burnout, or confusion about how they got... Read more
How to Tell If You’re Being Defensive in Your Relationship (And What to Do About It)
Dear Therapist, My partner keeps telling me I’m defensive. I don’t see it that way. I feel like I’m just explaining myself. I don’t want to come across as difficult, but I also don’t think it’s fair to always take the blame. How do I know if I’m actually being defensive... Read more
From Caretaking to Partnership: Preventing Burnout in ADHD Marriages
Being married to someone with ADHD can bring unique strengths — creativity, passion, and spontaneity — but it also comes with challenges that can leave the neurotypical, or non-ADHD partner, feeling drained. Over time, the extra mental load, repeated reminders, and misunderstandings can lead to burnout. The good news? With the... Read more
4 Top-Rated Resources That Support Alcohol Sobriety
If getting sober is a hill, staying sober can feel like a mountain. Thankfully, there are many resources to help a recovering alcoholic. From books to seminars, there are lots of ways you can experience the benefits of alcohol recovery and sobriety. If you're looking for resources to help you... Read more
How to Build Empathy in Relationships: Real-life Examples and Therapist-backed Tools
Many people believe empathy is something you’re born with—but in truth, it’s a skill you can practice. And in a world that can feel heavy and overwhelming, empathy is an unsung hero. But what is empathy, and how can you cultivate it? Whether you’re trying to reconnect with your partner, support... Read more
Why We Blame and Deny in Relationships — and What to Do Instead
Blame and denial are natural responses when relationships feel tense or uncertain. Many couples struggle with communication breakdowns, emotional distance, and repeated conflict. Yet, few realize how often these patterns are fueled by underlying defenses like blame and denial. In this post, we’ll explore why blame and denial emerge, what... Read more
Ask A Therapist: How Do I Actually Notice and Stop The Four Horsemen in Real Life?
Dear Therapist, I’ve been reading about the Four Horsemen from The Gottman Method, and I really want to improve how I show up in my relationship. But honestly, it’s hard to catch myself in the moment. Sometimes it feels like I only realize I was critical or defensive after the fact.... Read more