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How to Tell If You’re Being Defensive in Your Relationship (And What to Do About It)
Dear Therapist, My partner keeps telling me I’m defensive. I don’t see it that way. I feel like I’m just explaining myself. I don’t want to come across as difficult, but I also don’t think it’s fair to always take the blame. How do I know if I’m actually being defensive... Read more
From Caretaking to Partnership: Preventing Burnout in ADHD Marriages
Being married to someone with ADHD can bring unique strengths — creativity, passion, and spontaneity — but it also comes with challenges that can leave the neurotypical, or non-ADHD partner, feeling drained. Over time, the extra mental load, repeated reminders, and misunderstandings can lead to burnout. The good news? With the... Read more
4 Top-Rated Resources That Support Alcohol Sobriety
If getting sober is a hill, staying sober can feel like a mountain. Thankfully, there are many resources to help a recovering alcoholic. From books to seminars, there are lots of ways you can experience the benefits of alcohol recovery and sobriety. If you're looking for resources to help you... Read more
How to Build Empathy in Relationships: Real-life Examples and Therapist-backed Tools
Many people believe empathy is something you’re born with—but in truth, it’s a skill you can practice. And in a world that can feel heavy and overwhelming, empathy is an unsung hero. But what is empathy, and how can you cultivate it? Whether you’re trying to reconnect with your partner, support... Read more
Why We Blame and Deny in Relationships — and What to Do Instead
Blame and denial are natural responses when relationships feel tense or uncertain. Many couples struggle with communication breakdowns, emotional distance, and repeated conflict. Yet, few realize how often these patterns are fueled by underlying defenses like blame and denial. In this post, we’ll explore why blame and denial emerge, what... Read more
Ask A Therapist: How Do I Actually Notice and Stop The Four Horsemen in Real Life?
Dear Therapist, I’ve been reading about the Four Horsemen from The Gottman Method, and I really want to improve how I show up in my relationship. But honestly, it’s hard to catch myself in the moment. Sometimes it feels like I only realize I was critical or defensive after the fact.... Read more
What is AuDHD? Navigating ADHD and Autism in your relationship
AuDHD is the experience of having both Autism and ADHD—and it's more common than you might think. For many couples, this dual neurotype can bring both strengths and challenges to a relationship, including emotional dysregulation, executive functioning struggles, and communication differences. With curiosity and support, partners can create a deeper... Read more
Is AI replacing your partner? How triangulation affects your relationship
Communication isn’t always easy in relationships, especially when emotions run high. Many couples struggle to express their true feelings directly to each other, fearing conflict, rejection, or simply not knowing how to put their emotions into words. Instead of turning toward their partner, many people turn to others—or even to AI... Read more
Top 7 Romantic Couples Retreats in the USA and Beyond to Reconnect and Recharge
As my husband and I approached our one-year anniversary, we wanted to take a romantic vacation to reconnect and recharge. We explored couples retreats, beach getaways, mountain hideaways, and even a few international options, hoping to unplug from work and distractions and simply focus on each other. When a friend... Read more