Disclosure Session
The Disclosure Process
Infidelity can deeply impact a relationship, leaving partners unsure of how to rebuild trust and move forward. At Connect Couples Therapy, we offer a structured Disclosure Process to help couples have honest, transparent conversations about the betrayal. Unlike staggered disclosures, where bits and pieces of information are shared over time—often causing greater confusion, distrust, and harm—this process promotes full honesty from the start. By addressing the betrayal openly, couples can gain clarity and make informed decisions about the future of their relationship.
Our Disclosure Process was originally inspired by addiction treatment frameworks created by Dr. Stefanie Carnes, but we’ve tailored it to support couples working through the aftermath of infidelity or breaches of relational boundaries. With a focus on honesty, this process creates a space for open dialogue and opportunities to ask questions with therapeutic guidance and support.
What to Expect
The Disclosure Process is a facilitated multi-hour session where couples engage in a structured conversation to address hidden truths or behaviors that have impacted their relationship. The process may include:
- A focus on honesty to describe experiences clearly and factually and reducing confusion or secrecy.
- A safe environment where both partners can share, listen, and process emotions.
We understand this process involves risks and benefits, and our team is here to provide guidance and support every step of the way.
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The Disclosure Process is a courageous step toward clarity, healing, and growth. Whether your goal is to rebuild your relationship or make empowered decisions for your future, we’re here to guide you.
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Benefits of the Disclosure Process
Engaging in the Disclosure Process can lead to profound insights and positive shifts, including:
- Validation: Affirming your reality and experiences.
- Transparency: Reducing secrecy and confusion.
- Clarity: Gaining understanding.
- Empowerment: Making informed decisions about your relationship.
- Communication: Building a foundation of honesty.
Navigating the Challenges
We also acknowledge that the Disclosure Process can be emotionally intense. Some potential challenges may include:
- Hearing unexpected or painful truths.
Experiencing emotional upheaval or distress. - Considering the future of the relationship, including possible separation or divorce.
- Struggling with how to navigate these changes with children or family.
Our therapists are here to help you process these emotions and create a path forward, whether it involves rebuilding the relationship or transitioning with clarity and respect.
How We Support You
At Connect Couples Therapy, we prioritize creating a safe, structured environment to help you navigate this journey. Each disclosure session is carefully facilitated, and we work with both partners to ensure:
- Opportunities for clarifying questions and breaks.
- Voluntary participation with safety and support plans in place.
- A collaborative approach to rebuilding or redefining your relationship.
After the Disclosure Session
The Impact Letter Process
Following the Disclosure Process, couples often engage in a post-session step known as the Impact Letter Process. This therapeutic exercise allows the partner receiving the disclosure to process their emotions and communicate the impact of the experience.
What is an Impact Letter?
An Impact Letter is a written expression detailing the emotional and psychological effects of the disclosure. It allows the recipient to articulate their feelings, experiences, and the ways the disclosure has affected their life, relationships, and sense of trust.
Why is the Impact Letter Important?
- Processing Emotions: Writing the letter provides a safe space to explore and process complex feelings.
- Validation: It helps the disclosing partner understand the full extent of their actions’ impact.
- Structured Communication: The letter serves as a constructive tool to share needs and expectations for moving forward.
Therapeutic Support
To ensure a thoughtful and meaningful process, couples often participate in separate therapy sessions following the disclosure. These sessions provide the recipient with support in writing the letter and the disclosing partner with guidance on receiving and responding to it.
The Impact Letter Process fosters deeper understanding, accountability, and connection as couples navigate the path toward healing.