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How to Build a Secure Attachment Loop with your Partner (step-by-step)
Have you ever walked away from a conversation with your partner feeling completely misunderstood, even though you were trying so hard to explain yourself? Maybe the conversation started small. One person felt hurt, disappointed, lonely, or overwhelmed. But within minutes, it turned into a mess of defensiveness, criticism, shutting down —... Read more
Cultural Misalignment in Relationships: When Conflict Is Actually Culture
The first time my husband, then boyfriend, came to visit my family, I had to sit him down and warn him that my family might be “a lot.” I briefed him that there would be kisses and hugs, even though it was their first time meeting him. I warned him... Read more
When Scrolling Makes You Spiral: Relationship OCD and Social Media
For many people, social media is a cornerstone of life. It’s a place people go to find out what drama is happening with their favorite celebrities, get life hacks, recipes, and inspiration from their favorite influencers, and learn who from their graduating class has just gotten engaged, married, or had... Read more
Autism, ADHD, or Narcissism? How to Tell the Difference in Your Relationship
Have you ever been in a fight with your partner and wondered why the argument felt so entrenched? Your partner was so focused on being right that they missed your tears or dismissed your emotional experience altogether. Sometimes it’s more than a frustrating miscommunication. Neurology and physiology can play a significant... Read more
How to Heal Anxious Attachment in Relationships: 6 Therapist-Recommended Resources
Do you ever wonder why your relationship with your partner doesn’t feel deeply fulfilling? Your way of attaching to others — your anxious attachment style or other attachment pattern — is a blueprint for how you connect in close relationships. Your attachment style is shaped by your early experiences with... Read more
Ask a Therapist: How Do I Get Over My Insecurities?
Everyone feels insecure at times. Insecurities can sneak into any relationship, whether at work or with family, in your romantic relationship, or with friends. If you've ever felt burdened with insecurities in your relationship and are unsure how to move forward, you are not alone! We chatted with therapist H.M.... Read more
Is Your Partner a Pursuer or Withdrawer? Why Does It Matter?
A loving partnership is one of the most valuable things in life. Being able to turn to and depend on our partner creates deep joy, shelter, and protection through life's challenges. But no matter how secure our relationship is, we all experience periods of relationship distress and conflict. Understanding more... Read more
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?
You may have encountered EFT or Emotionally Focused Therapy if you have researched therapy types. This well-known approach is based on John Bowlby's attachment research from more than 50 years ago. Bowlby found that humans and higher primate animals appeared to have an innate need to feel attached to and... Read more
Therapy 101: What You Need to Know About Attachment
What is attachment? If you’ve ever Googled questions related to love, romance, or parenting, you might have come across the term “attachment.” You may have seen books on attachment at the library or even encountered the term in therapy. While the concept of attachment is important in psychology, it isn’t... Read more